Wondering whether or not you should try to get back together with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend? Before doing anything else, it’s good to know which signs and signals indicate interest after the breakup… and which do not.
After a break up, many people fight for a second chance in their relationship.
It’s common to want to hold onto someone when you still love them, especially if you think the romance can work.
But does your ex still love you?
Knowing the answer can make a big difference in whether or not you get them back.
For every break up there’s a potential reconciliation.
For anyone trying to win back an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, you should understand and believe that fixing your breakup is not only possible, but actually pretty likely.
A startling number of couples give love a second chance after being apart for a while, and your own relationship should be no different.
But if your ex was the one who broke things off, it’s your responsibility to get him or her to the point where they miss, need, and want you back again.
Existing Feelings – Why They Linger After a Breakup
An important thing to realize is that a partner’s feelings for you will always run strong.
In order to break up with you they can’t just turn their feelings off like a faucet… it doesn’t work that way.
So what your ex does is take whatever left over emotions he or she might have toward you after the break up and buries them deep inside.
Sometimes they bury them deep, but other times they put them just beneath the surface.
You always can tell when your ex still loves you because they’ll turn away quickly and be reluctant to talk to you immediately after the break up, often breaking into tears as a defense mechanism to get away from you.
This is because he or she knows you’re trying to pull those feelings back out and show them to them.
If getting your ex back were simple, you could just dig up those feelings and use them to win his or her heart again. However, it’s a little more complicated than that.
The ideal way of getting back an ex boyfriend or girlfriend is to allow that person to rediscover those emotions herself.
This isn’t to say you can’t help out by showing your ex where those feelings are buried.
There are very specific methods for uncovering the love that your ex still has for you, but you need to do it in a manner that’s slow and subtle.
If you come off as too fast, desperate, or overbearing, your ex is going to take three steps back for each one you take forward.
Causing your ex to face those emotions will make them miss you, and from there, think about you.
Dating you again is the next logical step, as he or she begins to realize what life will be like without you in it.
Many people are afraid to make a move before asking themselves “Does my ex still love me?” They want definite signs that their ex-girlfriend or ex boyfriend still has feelings for them before they proceed.
Interpreting How Your Ex Treats You After Breaking Things Off
To know how good your chances are, you need to examine the way you’ve been treated by your boyfriend or girlfriend after the break up.
Have you been in contact with your ex? Post-break up communication is usually an indication that one or both of you aren’t over the relationship.
If your ex hasn’t called or written you after they ended things, it’s possible they’re trying to move on. The further along he or she gets, the harder it will be to win them back.
Although giving your ex some space after the break up – and a period of non-communication – can be instrumental in making them miss you again, there’s also a time when you need to initiate contact yourself.
Knowing when and how to do that is crucial, before your ex takes too many steps away from your relationship, making it unrecoverable.
Don’t be upset if your ex hasn’t called you yet. If their feelings are strong, breaking ties might require them to steer clear of you for a while.
Some people do this for fear of relapsing back into the relationship. The know their own feelings… and those feelings are so strong, they’re afraid that seeing or hearing from you will destroy their will to continue the break up. But other people?
They’re intentionally trying to put you out of their minds for a reason. Getting back into your ex’s head is a necessary part of winning your boyfriend or girlfriend back.
The good news is that if you’re still in touch with your ex, things are looking up.
If he or she is still emailing or texting you, or even calling to speak to you after they’ve ended things, chances are they’re missing your company. Any person still talking to an ex has still left the door to the relationship open… if only just a crack.
There are methods you can use to gently tug on past feelings and emotions toward you, causing that door to slowly swing open. By touching on existing memories you shared together and exhibiting behaviors consistent with the very beginning of your relationship, you can put your ex into an entirely different mindset.
When you’ve created the type of environment where they’re receptive to the idea of dating you again, you can set up a casual meeting for lunch or coffee. This is a huge step toward getting back together after a breakup.
An even better sign that your ex still loves you is when they call just to say hello, without any provocation or message on your part.
When that happens, your ex is sitting on the fence, trying to determine whether or not to get back together with you.
Part of them wants to see you again, and the other part wants to continue being single. Which part do you get when he or she calls?
It all depends on the timing. Lots of different factors affect your ex’s mental state at all different times of the day or week.
For example, when they’re lonely and sitting on their bed at night? That’s when your ex is most likely to miss you.
Choosing these moments of opportunity to make your move can greatly boost your chances of success, but timing isn’t everything… you also need to know what to say, and what to do that will make your ex want you back.