Love is the most powerful emotion a human being can experience, yet today over 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce.
The truth is, love is hard work and you must fight for it.
There are going to be tough times in addition to the happy times.
If you really love someone, the two of you will be able to conquer anything.
If you want your relationship to last a lifetime, listen up. I’ve listed below some advice to help keep your love lasting:
Always stay positive.
Remember when you thought your significant other was attractive, funny, sweet, and one-of-a-kind?
Somewhere along the way all of that got buried underneath a pile of annoyances.
It happens in all relationships: the garbage doesn’t get taken out, one-person snores, and socks get left on the floor.
But don’t let the little annoyances make you forget about what truly made you fall in love in the first place.
Instead of dwelling on the irritations that make you want to pull your hair out, think about all of the things you love about your partner instead.
Effective communication is critical to the success of any long-term relationship.
According to John Gottman, a leading researcher regarding why marriages are successful, there are nine skills that, if learned, can help couples communicate more effectively.
He suggests never criticizing, insulting, getting defensive, or ignoring your partner, no matter how mad you may be.
Instead, calm down before saying something hurtful and speak non-defensively. Validate your significant other by really listening to what they have to say.
And finally, practice these skills over and over so that when you’re tired, stressed, or angry, you will still be able to use them.
Keep the spark.
When two people first meet there are butterflies, fireworks, and so many sparks you practically need sunglasses.
This feeling is caused by the hormone oxytocin.
But sooner or later, the sparks burn out and the butterflies fly away. Those exciting feelings just don’t last forever.
But it is possible to reignite the spark by doing something out of your normal routine. It’s all too easy to get stuck in a rut- same old restaurants and same old TV shows – mix things up and have some fun.
So next time you’re about to go to the movies for the hundredth time, why not opt for a cooking class or an amusement park instead?
Love isn’t always a fairy tale; it can get routine sometimes and you’re not always going to get along.
But love is learning to put someone else’s needs above your own. You must admit your wrong and work on becoming a better person.
If you fight through the tough times, the happy times will be worth it.
In the end the ultimate reward is having unconditional love that is true.
If you want to strengthen your relationship and want someone to guide you, reach out to one of our couple’s coaches.
They will provide you with strategic tools and advice to achieve a happier and stronger relationship.