4 Tips for Creating a Happier Life

Want to live a happier life? Use these four tips to start creating one now! Four Tips For A Happier Life By Alice Davies      With the rate in which technology is fast developing, speeding up the pace at which life moves and making the world a global village, it is really necessary for us to take out time to review our lives to find out which areas need improvement. Although these new and improved technologies offer us numerous luxuries and comforts, in the real sense, studies conducted on the impact of technologies on human lives have discovered that they do not make us happier. Instead, people have become less sociable and more disconnected from life. Below are some suggestions that can be of help in case you ever make the conscious choice of improving yourself and increasing your chances of manifesting a happy life.   Happier Life Tip #1 – Organize Your House Many may think that this tip only applies to people who love to accumulate personal properties, but that is not correct. People get so caught up in different activities in their daily lives that they allow things to accumulate, cluttering their home and allowing it to get messy. They may either forget to do the dishes and allow them to pile up or forget to throw away things that are of no use. It is highly important for people to try to create time to clean and organize their homes as this has a direct effect on your ability to feel good.   Happier Life Tip #2 – Find A Coach Or Mentor Life at its current state is moving so fast that we can hardly keep track of time. People get stuck in a loop of routines until they discovered that this had become their life, which…

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Check out Between the Lines

‘ Reading in between the lines’ was one more claiming that my grandma utilized to utilize regularly. It was something she educated me to do, as finest she could, which in my life has actually contributed in choices I have actually made. If my presumptions have actually constantly been proper however, I am not certain….

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Puppetmaster Control Video Series

Feeling and sensing whether you crave “control” because you WANT something – OR, because you’re afraid of something…can make all the difference in your life… Because Control not only kills love…it stops cold the magnetic pull of everything you want in life toward you…and ends up pushing everything you want away. In this new world…

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The Difference Between Passive Aggression and Feminine Scripts!

The Question: Rori, Will you please be more explicit with your examples.. about what’s the true feminine way & what’s passive aggression? My Answer: – I know this cannot possibly feel clear for every situation – because each situation might require a completely different “Script” for you to use! This is because it’s all about…

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It’s Ok Not to Be a Literal Superhero

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As LEVEL senior editor John Kennedy wrote in the Minority Report newsletter following Chadwick Boseman’s death from colon cancer, the 43-year-old actor’s legacy has quickly been distorted into another example of hustle porn.

“Somehow,” Kennedy notes, “some folks have managed to twist Chadwick’s awe-worthy work ethic while ill into a new way to criticize and shame others for their own productivity — pseudo-motivation that’s thick with ableism. Who raised these people?”

As Kennedy points out, there’s no point in assigning value to life based entirely on output. So you haven’t starred in movies while privately battling cancer? Fine. There’s a reason why Boseman was the Black Panther and you weren’t (sorry!). A healthier approach might be to take a moment to appreciate how this extraordinary man touched others, created joy, and made the most of his time on earth — not to belittle others (including yourself) for not having the work ethic of a superhero.

Chadwick Boseman’s superhero drive doesn’t make you a slacker

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Some good news for introverts

Today’s tip comes from The New Self-Help, Forge’s 21 essential self-improvement books for the 21st century.

📢 Today’s tip: Don’t confuse charisma with good ideas.

There’s a certain personality type we tend to associate with leadership: gregarious, extraverted, always ready and eager for an audience. But in her book Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we’ve got it all wrong: Often, the quietest voice in the room is one to listen to.

“Studies in group dynamics suggest we perceive talkative people to be more intelligent, better-looking, and more likable than their quieter counterparts,” she writes, “but research suggests that there’s no such link.” In fact, one management study found that the highest-performing companies tend to have CEOs who are humble, reserved, even shy.

And there’s a reason for their success. As Cain puts it: “We need leaders who build not their own egos, but the institutions they run. Not performers, but the people who get things done.”

📚 More from Forge on embracing your introverted side:

Alone Time Is Essential to a Healthy Social Life

The Shy Person’s Guide to Winning Friends and Influencing People

‘Anxious’ Is the New ‘Shy’

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When pessimism comes in handy

📅 Today’s tip: Give everything on your schedule a back-up slot.

Sure, optimism is great, but it can also be a disastrous outlook when it comes to planning your day. You might plot out a space for everything on your calendar, but what happens when a work project takes a little longer than anticipated, or family demands cut into the hours you’d carefully carved out for yourself?

As the time-management expert Laura Vanderkam explains, a little pessimism can make a big difference when it comes your schedule. Assume something, somewhere, will go wrong, and give everything on your schedule a back-up slot. If you always have an alternate plan ready to go, you won’t have to extend the time you spend on work at the expense of fun.

📚 More from Forge on rethinking the workweek:

How to Pitch a 4-Day Week to Your Boss

To Get More Done, Work Less

7 Ways to Do a Workweek

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What Do We Need to Live?

Requirements to sustain life: not much, really.

Water. That’s important.

Food. Also important. But we don’t need a special kind of food. Any kind of food will do. Any kind of food will keep us alive. Yes, there are a few exceptions. You can’t live on peanuts if you have a deathly peanut allergy, obvs. But those are—what?—the exceptions. Exceptions don’t invalidate a principle; they just show its limits.

What else? What else do we need to live?

We need protection from the elements: shelter of some kind. Warmth when it’s cold. A cool place when it’s too hot. Some protection from the extremes of nature. But it doesn’t have to be fancy. It doesn’t even have to be ours. Shared, basic, dirty, clean, small, large, it doesn’t matter. And we need the kind of shelter that we wear: clothes, shoes. Again, any kind will do. It just needs to be functional to, well, function.

That’s it. Those are the basic requirements of life.




There are other things we need sometimes: care and medicine if we’re sick, assistance and aid if we’re injured or incapacitated. Those are situational needs for most of us. They come, they go.

Sustaining life requires very little.

So what’s all the fuss? All the work? All the effort for more, more, more? Is it about need?

Sometimes, sure! Sometimes we’re in a situation that requires more than usual.

But most of the time? No. It’s not about need. It’s about the illusion of need.

I live, currently, in a three-bedroom, one-bath apartment with my husband and our four kids. We’re looking for a bigger place, because one bathroom and six people is kind of awful.

But do we need it? No. We do not need a bigger home. We can believe in the illusion of need. We can come up with all sorts of reasons, and validate them by comparison and logic. Logic! Logic is such a great tool, so handy for justifying all the extra work we have to do to get all the things we think we need.

We don’t need that much.




We want more, don’t we? Yes! We want so much more.

Water and cold water and sparkling water and frozen water to put inside my non-frozen water! Also, I’d like things to add to my water so it doesn’t taste like water. And I’ll also have some hot water and things to put in my hot water so it becomes more than water (magical life-giving elixir) and then maybe some other things to add to the hot-magic-bean water and that should just about do it.

Food, but not just any food! Good food, fresh food, organic food, various combinations of food, snacks, fruits, no not that kind of fruit the other kind of fruit, vegetables yes, but please only vegetables that taste a certain way. And I’d like some special types of food that I use to enhance or disguise other types of food. Also, there’s some food I want that has no value for helping me survive (and may even make it more difficult to survive). Oh, let’s not forget the food that I won’t ever eat, those jars and cans and boxes that get shuffled around for months and thrown out when I move from this perfectly sufficient shelter to the other one that I like better.

Shelter! A perfectly sufficient shelter has walls, a roof, a floor, electricity, running water. Really, that’s a luxury shelter. The floor is optional. The electricity is optional. The running water is optional, too. You can get water elsewhere and bring it back to your shelter. But this is about what I want, and I want a good shelter. I want a luxury shelter. I want a better shelter than the one I have. Why? It won’t help me survive. It adds no necessary functionality. A house doesn’t improve your survival rate because it’s got fancier floors, more walls, a higher roof, and more taps from which to access that running water.

And clothes, the temporary, wearable, transportable shelter we take with us. We are weird about clothes. Not only are we insanely picky about them, we often pick the ones that hinder rather than aid our survival. High heels? Are you kidding me? Have you seen these things called Spanx that they sell for women? Necessary? No. Suffocating? Yes. Men: what is the function of the necktie? How does it help you survive?

Ah, you say. It’s because we are animals. Intelligent animals, yes, but animals nonetheless. We use our better food, better shelter, better clothes to attract a mate. To procreate.

Hm, okay. But you can live a long life without mating. Sex is necessary for procreation, yes, but it’s not necessary for life once you’re already here.

Ah, you say. It’s because we are social animals. We have an advanced civilization with many complex social rules. We use these things—food, shelter, clothes—to indicate our status in our society, to advance, to succeed.

Hm, yes. We do. We wear certain types of clothes to indicate what kind of group we belong to in this complex and advanced civilization. But group-belonging is not necessary for survival. It used to be, back when ostracization from the tribe literally meant death.

Did you realize you can live a long, healthy, happy life without belonging to any sort of group, these days? Fascinating.

All of these things—the better food, the fancier water, the bigger shelter—are to fulfill wants, not needs. We do not need more than necessary for survival. We want it. We want more than survival. We want comfort. We want connection. We want belonging. We want meaning. We want adventure. We want fun.

But what are all those things? Comfort, connection, belonging, meaning, adventure, fun, etc.? Where do you find them? How do you know when you have achieved them? How much more/better is needed to achieve those wants? They’re intangible. There’s no measure. There’s no standard.

You know because you feel it, right?

You know you have comfort when you feel comfortable. You know you have connection when you feel connected. You know you’re having fun when you feel like you’re having fun.

So, what do we want?

We want the good feelings. We want the feeling of comfort, joy, love, connection, fun. And we work hard to get ourselves the things we need in order to have those feelings. Sometimes we have to endure a lot of pain to get the bigger/better things we need so we can have the good feelings we want.

What if—just an idea, a crazy one, but hear me out—what if we paused our frantic rush for bigger/better/more? What if, instead, we spent some time thinking about the feelings we want to have? What if we figured out exactly what’s required to experience those feelings? More of them, lots of them, maybe even all the time.

We might not need to work so hard. We might not need bigger/better/more. We might find out that those experiences—those good feelings—are available right now, as we are, with what we have.

It’s certainly an idea worth exploring.

Annie Mueller is a writer, reader, seeker of growth, and transplant to Puerto Rico, where she lives with her best friend and their four children. Her crash course in self-discovery came from experiencing job loss, financial devastation, Hurricane Maria and its aftermath, and major surgery—all in less than a year. She writes about creativity, personal growth, and spirituality; runs Prolifica, a content management consultancy for small teams and solo professionals; and sends out a popular weekly newsletter about feelings and freelancing. You can find more of her work on her website.


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